Success by Removal?
Dr. Will Horton
We all have habits and behaviors that we know are not beneficial to our lives, yet we continue to do them. Most of us were raised with the adage, "Don't be a quitter." We've internalized it to the point where we feel bad if we don't complete a book that bores us to tears.
Our parents weren't wholly wrong when they said that perseverance is essential for success. Yet, resigning is sometimes the most effective line of action. Quitting can be a virtue, whether it's a failing effort, grueling work, or a hopeless romance.
If you’re looking to make some positive changes in your life, then it’s time to start by recognizing the things that you need to stop doing.
Here are the top 6 things to stop doing now in order to improve your life.
1. Quit doubting yourself.
Quitting doubting yourself is the first thing you should stop doing now.
Doubting yourself can lead to a lack of motivation and a feeling of being overwhelmed. It can also cause feelings of uneasiness and lack of confidence in oneself and one's talents. It can even lead to self-sabotage, in which you impede yourself from achieving your objectives.
Hewlett-Packard conducted an intriguing study in which they investigated how employees applied for promotions at the company. Women, it found out, only applied when they met 100% of the employment requirements. Men, on the other hand, applied when they met 60% of the criterion.
The researchers hypothesized that one of the (many) reasons men dominated the company's higher echelons was their willingness to try for more positions than females. Sometimes confidence is all that is required to get to the next level.
To quit doubting yourself, start by identifying the negative thoughts you have about yourself and replace them with positive affirmations. Remind yourself of the good qualities you possess and the successes you have achieved.
Take small steps to reach your goals and celebrate each success, no matter how small. Believe in yourself and your capabilities and trust that you can achieve your goals.
2. Quit putting things off.
Quitting and putting things off is one of the most important things to stop doing now.
Change is hard, but it's necessary for self-improvement. Procrastination is a habit that can be hard to break, but the rewards of breaking this habit are worth it. Taking small steps towards your goals and staying organized can help you stay on track and achieve success.
When things are difficult, it is usually easier to put them off till tomorrow. The issue is that tomorrow never arrives. Saying you'll do it later is an excuse that says you either don't want to do it or want the results without the effort.
When you put things off, you are only making it harder for yourself in the long run. When you take action and start making progress towards your goals, you will see positive results.
Self-improvement is hard, but by taking consistent action, you can make it easier. So don't wait any longer - quit putting things off NOW and start taking action today.
3. Quit thinking you have no choice.
Quit thinking you have no choice. Life is full of choices, and there is always a choice. Even if they are two bad choices, it's still a choice.
Making a decision is hard, but it is important to remember that you have the power to choose. It is easy to feel overwhelmed when presented with two bad options, but the best thing to do is to take a step back and look at the situation objectively. Consider all the options, weigh the pros and cons, and make an informed decision.
If you require assistance, do not be afraid to ask for it. Remember, even if the choices are not ideal, you have the power to choose one. Stop thinking you have no choice, and start taking control of your life.
4. Stop repeating the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome.
It is essential to quit doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. Insanity, according to Einstein, is doing the same thing over and again and expecting a different result. This behavior can be damaging, as it is often a sign of unproductivity or lack of motivation.
It is important to recognize when this behavior is occurring and take action to break the cycle. Taking a moment to reflect and analyze the situation from a different angle can assist in the discovery of new answers. Additionally, seeking advice from someone else can provide a fresh perspective and help identify new approaches.
Taking a break and engaging in activities that provide a sense of accomplishment can also help break the cycle. Ultimately, it is important to recognize when repeating the same behavior is not producing desired results and take steps to break the cycle and find more productive solutions.
5. Stop expecting things to work out on their own.
Quitting the thought that everything will work out on its own is one of the most important things to stop doing now. This kind of thinking is a form of procrastination and can lead to a lack of action, which can have a negative impact on our lives.
Don't expect your employer to notice when you're ready for a promotion and don't expect your colleague to stop sloughing work off on you if you're always prepared to do it. Also, don't expect anyone to stop walking all over you as long as you allow it.
We must take responsibility for our own lives and be proactive in order to make our dreams come true.
It is critical to develop a strategy, define goals, and work hard to achieve them. It is also important to stay motivated and focused on our goals and not to give up even when things don't seem to be going our way. We must take action and do our best to make our dreams come true rather than simply expecting them to happen.
6. Quit saying “yes.”
Quitting saying “yes” is one of the most important things to stop doing now.
Saying "yes" to one thing means saying "no" to another. Saying "yes" to working late, for example, may imply saying "no" to going to the gym or spending time with your family. Saying "yes" to every request or opportunity can lead to overcommitting and feeling overwhelmed.
According to University of California, San Francisco studies, the more difficult it is to say "no," the more likely you are to experience stress, burnout, and even despair.
It's important to be able to recognize when you don't have the capacity to take on something new and to be comfortable saying "no" in those situations. Learning to set boundaries and prioritize your commitments is key to maintaining a healthy balance between work and other aspects of life.
It’s ok to say “no” and to focus on the things that are truly important to you.
Everyone needs to reassess their current lifestyle from time to time to make sure it is still in line with their values and goals. If you really want to succeed—and I mean really succeed—stop focusing so much on what you should be doing. Instead, take a really good look at the things you should quit doing.
The above-mentioned actions can be hard habits to break, but if you're looking to make a fresh start, now is the perfect time to ditch them and move forward with your future.
Remind yourself of your ambitions, but also remember that you need to do the work and be patient with the process in order to make them happen.
The best thing you can do for you and your life is take action!
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